Today’s young adults are the most “connected” generation in the history of the world.
We are also among the most lonely, with many having no close relationships of any kind.
A separate Australian study found that young adults were by far the most likely to be lonely, with 30% saying they “frequently feel lonely.” For comparison, among those aged 35-39, only 6% said they often felt lonely.
Lonely in a Crowd
Why is this? Better yet, how is this even possible?
After all, the same age group supposedly averages 328 “friends” on Facebook (honestly, I expected that number to be even higher). Everybody in the world can see exactly what you had for breakfast; that’s pretty personal, right?
And it’s not like Generation Y is composed of a lot of farmers or shepherds who rarely see another human. We live in giant cities, in apartment complexes, and work in office cubicles where the walls between us are only four feet tall. Forget lonely; it seems like we’d have to work really hard to even be alone.
However, our extreme connectedness is part of the reason we lack true connections. You can’t have 328 close friends. It’s impossible. There aren’t enough hours in the day. And in small towns, such as where I grew up, people are more likely to be involved in each other’s lives. It would seem ridiculous in Cuero for someone not to know their next-door neighbor, but in cities like Dallas that is very common.
Add in the fact that statistically Generation Y tends to be rather self-centered and afraid of commitment, and you have a group that tends to find itself alone in a crowd.
Why It Matters
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone.” – Genesis 2:18b
Loneliness was the first thing in all creation that God saw was “not good.” Seven times in Genesis 1 you have some variation of “And God saw that it was good,” so having Him say that something was “not good” is kind of jarring.
Humans are created to live in relationship with each other. Even people who don’t believe in creation would almost universally agree with the rest of that statement. That’s why people who are already in prison dread the punishment of solitary confinement. It is also why this loneliest generation is statistically also the most depressed, and why we can tend to make some really questionable decisions when we make those decisions alone.
If nobody truly knows you—knows how you are feeling, what you are facing, and what is going on in your life—then that is truly not good.
That is why we talk about community all the time. And if you are at The Porch—or are a young adult in Dallas and can come to The Porch on Tuesdays—then we will make it as easy as possible for you through Open Community Group and our whole community team.
If you are not in Dallas, then get plugged in to a body of believers where you are. Note that we’re not talking about just having friends at church, but the kind of biblical community where you live out the “one anothers” of Scripture. If you don’t see that happening at your church—start it. Be a positive force for change.
If we can help in any way, let us know.
Just curious, in the comments below: how many people truly know you?